Hi There! You know, I don’t really care what you look like. I don’t care if you send a picture in your response to my ad or not. However, if you send a picture of your naughty bits, I will most likely be sending you to the spam folder.
I don’t care how much money you make, as long as you can take care of your own basic needs.
I don’t care about your social status, your career, your education level, or where you come from.
I don’t even care if you’re really not sure what or who you want (except that if you want to date me, you’d better know that you want a woman, I will have no Katy Perry-ing here).
Why am I writing this? I’m sick of the “send me your picture so I can respond to you” and the “here’s a picture of some hot girl’s body, write to me if you’re hot too” posts that are so obviously trolls. I’m sick of the close-minded, intolerant, ignorant morons expecting to get everything and give nothing in return.
What do I want then? How about some honesty, some truthiness, some giving and charity and kindness? How about laughter, and loving attention, great listening skills and friendship? Loyalty, integrity, passion, more laughter; how about saying what you mean and doing what you say, including showing up for dates, having common courtesy and consideration, and treating others the way they want to be treated (which is most likely NOT blowing them off, ignoring them, or lying to them)?
You might think from this rant that these things are happening to me, and you’d be right, but the main reason I write is that I figure there are others like me out there, looking for the same things, in a friend or more-than-friend, and maybe they don’t want to post because it’s a risk, and it’s a pain, and it can be disheartening to write your heart and soul out and have some troll mess with you.
So all that said, I’m looking for people who feel a call to respond, a resonance, if you will, a willingness to be as good a friend as they can be (and since us queers are ostensibly allowed in the military, you might as well be “all that you can be”), and to reward loyalty, honesty and compassion with an equal measure of same. Is that you? Let’s make an entire squadron, a legion of people who feel the same way, and let’s support each other in the real world.
To that end, no, you will not a get picture of me even if you ask nicely, on the first email. Yes you should google me and if you like what you find, keep talking to me; if you don’t, let me know you don’t want to talk (that’s called common courtesy, a lesson sorely in need of teaching, apparently). If you sound sane and interesting, you will probably get my phone number, and will be expected to have the ovaries to meet up in person. If you are easily offended and don’t know how to laugh at everything, get some lessons, then come talk to me. I’m not an idealist – I know how the world is, and how difficult it can be, but I do believe that birds of a feather can flock together for shelter, support, and mutual admiration.
I think this is a good place to finish up my call to (huggable) arms, I hope you all find your own independence from the constraints on your pursuit of happiness.
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